Butterfly Fighting Circle (BFC)
Payson Road is excited to introduce a new
program, the Butterfly Fighting Circle (BFC) designed
after the Chinese Martial Art of shuai-chiao (pronounced swhy jow), a form of
Kung Fu. We are using the Kung Fu concept to help bridge
the gap between the mind and the body by instilling a sense of empowerment
physically and mentally - even if it is symbolic. The symbolic meaning
of balance that Chinese philosophies incorporate are a key component to our recovery
programs. Finding balance will lead you on the path to healing. ***
How Does the Program Work
The BFC journey follows the phases
of Tan Lit Fu Ye - A traditional Chinese
expression that enumerates four levels a kung fu practitioner must pass through
to reach the highest expertise.
Like the Kung Fu tradition, to
mark your journey, we use different color belts.
Now of course this is not a physical
exercise. So we do not award belts when you reach a certain level of
expertise in fighting. You are rewarded with a new belt when you have
completed a certain number of days accomplishing things from your What Dreams Are Made Of and Happiness
Every day we encourage you to do one thing from your Happiness list and/or one
step on your What Dreams Are Made of List. Even if it's for 5
minutes and one small step. It could be as simple as meditating for 5
minutes or writing in your journal.
The Four Levels - Tan
Lit Fu Ye
Tan Lit Fu Ye - Courage Power Hard Work and Art
- The four levels a shuai-chiao warrior needs to complete his
journey. We ask you to refer to these levels and use them to help you
through yours. These principles will serve to comfort you and to teach you
to honor your truth and develop your inner voice. You must apply them to
complete your journey. The reward will be greater than you can imagine.
- The first level is tan (courage), a
brave, fearless spirit
- Second, lit (power), which refers to
the development of strength.
- The third is kung fu (hard work) which
means applying the dedication and perseverance necessary to learn.
- And finally there is ye (art), the
expression of the very highest level, in which all techniques can be used
effectively and effortlessly, demonstrating complete mastery of a style. back
The first step in this program is to connect
with your inner spirit - that which moves you. And makes you happy.
Payson Road created an exercise for this purpose for our Recovery Journal.
It's called the Happiness List. If you are unfamiliar with the Happiness
List, and/or haven't done yours yet, please go to Happiness
List on the Recovery Journal.
We've expanded the Happiness List for the BFC and created - What Dreams
Are Made Of. It takes the Happiness List a step further. It helps
you connect with your inner truth and your inner voice. The one that was
so loud as a child. The one that didn't think about BUT or NO or
NOT. The one that only saw possibilities.
Here's your first steps to take:
Happiness - Read
the information about the Happiness List on the Recovery Journal and take a
Wall of Happiness
on our Corner Archives
Section. Contributed by members of the Payson Road Online Support
your Happiness List - Make
a list of the things that make you happy. Anything at all. It could be
as simple as curling up in a cozy chair next to a fire reading a book, to
traveling to far away lands. Whatever moves you.
What Dreams Are Made Of for you - Write
down a list of things that you dream about. That make you happy. That
you strive for. Whatever it is that you dream of aspiring, write it
Try to distance yourself from your ED voice. The voice that
tells you that your dream is no good or unrealistic. Think about what
you aspired to be when you were seven. Your dream of dreams. No
matter how great or small. The dreams that you want in your heart of
hearts to come true more than anything else. Write them down.
One, two, ten, a hundred. Write as much down as you like. Just
write it. And come from your truth.
Into Your Dreams - Once
you've done your list now you need to create a set of steps that will help
take you to that dream. Start small. Don't overwhelm yourself
with trying to reach the top. Work on the process. I dream of
producing my own script. So if that is my ultimate goal, where do I
start? Traditionally I would get so caught up in that top goal and not
work on the process and just blow it off and do nothing. It's very
easy for us with ED's to do that. All or nothing. But it is
crucial for us to identify the things that we really do dream of. But
equally important to recognize that it's the process that matters. We
don't have to achieve them overnight. We need to set it in motion.
So what should my steps be? Well, first of all, I need to come up with
the story. So the first thing might be a paragraph of the idea.
Maybe after that, write out an outline. Then from there work on a
treatment or the story synopsis. Once I have that together I can
work on the first scene of the script. And so on and so
In the past what I would do is just say, I gotta produce my script!
And be frustrated that it wasn't happening but I would build it up so much
and not take little baby steps. I don't have to write the whole thing
at once. I just have to take one step forward toward that goal.
You can apply this example to any dream or goal you have. Write down
the steps. Baby or toddler, just take them.
Here's an example
set of lists and steps
You've done your lists, now it's time
to put them to work for you. Here's how.
You achieve belts by completing a
combination of things from your two lists, beginning slowly with just the
Happiness List. It
doesn't have to be the same thing two days in a row. One day you could
read a chapter in a book and the next day you could go for a walk etc.
Each day earned requires one item from one of
|| 2 consecutive days from Happiness List
||4 consecutive days - 2
days Happiness List,
2 days What Dreams Are List
can include building your list and writing steps)
||8 days (days do not
have to be consecutive)
within two consecutive weeks (14 days) -
must incorporate both lists in that time
|| 7 consecutive days -
incorporate both lists in that time period
|| 10 days (days do not
have to be consecutive)
within three consecutive weeks (21 days) -
must incorporate both lists
in that time period
|| 21 days (days do not
have to be consecutive)
within four consecutive weeks (30 days) -
must incorporate both lists in
that time period.
When you reach Black, you will
become a BFC Master. We will feature a list of BFC Masters on
this page and if you so choose, we will post your name. You are
officially a BFC Member when you receive your Yellow Belt.
PLEASE BE CLEAR: This is
not a restriction list or a cold turkey no binge/purge reward system. You
will not be rewarded based on how many days you abstain from purging or whatever
your cycle is. It is an incentive program to get you to focus on your life
and the things in your life that make you happy. Do not focus on your
disease and having to stop your destructive behavior. It's wonderful if that happens as well. But put the
focus on what makes you happy and what your dreams are. Get back to your
How Do You Know If I Did It?
The BFC runs on the honor program, so we are
trusting you to be honest about having accomplished something from your
lists. Bottom line - this program is for you. You will
only be cheating yourself.
What counts as an Accomplishment?
For the purposes of this
program, it must be an activity that makes you happy or a step on your
dreams list, and must be at least 5 minutes in duration. You do not have
to do the same activity to build up the belts, just a single activity and/or single
step each day from your lists.
How Do I Log My Accomplishments?
YES this takes work. Recovery does. Nothing comes for free in this life
folks. Your recovery is not going to just happen one day when you least
expect it. You must achieve it. Payson Road seeks to support you in
pursuit of the long term goal of changing your coping methods and thus changing
your patterns. Don't get discouraged because this does not happen over
night. You can recover. But you need to do some work for this to
It is up to you to keep track of your belt
status. You will need to send us a record of your accomplishments in order
to receive your belts and become a BFC member. Please only submit
a form, when you have succeeded in reaching a belt level. You must email
us your report in order to be awarded with your belt. It is crucial for
you to keep track of this information as you may have achieved up to
your Orange belt then taken a break for a week or a month
and started on to your next belt.
Don't be discouraged if you're not making it to Black right away. Like
recovery, it's a process. We just want you to keep sticking with the
program. If it takes you six months or a year or however long to reach
Black that's fine. Go at your own pace. But stay with the
Here's an example of the format you can
use. We suggest that you put it on a Microsoft Excel Spreadsheet. If
you do not have that available to you, you can email the list as long as it
includes all the fields and all the information.
in my journal
for a walk on the beach
To email your Belt Level Reports
or for questions about the program email, bfc (@ paysonroad.com )
Example Lists and Steps:
Sarah Mason's Lists
- Writing Stories
- Singing and Music
- Hanging in a cafes sipping
- Getting together with friends
- Engaging in a discussion
great depth and intensity
- Taking long walks
|What Dreams Are
Made Of List:
my script that I've been working on forever
my idea for HBO written and produced
the acknowledgment I've been striving for as a writer
my own script for TV and for Film
on a film project in Boston - my own project
widespread awareness of Eating Disorders
and make crucial strides in recovery and treatment
this site funded!
singing and performing again
for item 2 on What Dreams list: Finishing my HBO treatment
- Write out
general story line
- Research some
info on stats from the past
- Write out a
- Work on the
part one by writing out one scene etc. etc.
- After script
completed, give the draft to others to read
- tighten up
script, draft 2 etc.
- Write down a
list of contacts to send to
- Write pitch
- Make calls
- Write down a
list of fall events for networking
- Work those
back to getting
on to next step achieving belts
Be Advised: the
BFC program is not meant
as replacement for proper care from a doctor, therapists, nutritionist,
support group, etc. We encourage you to seek professional support in tandem
with this program. It
is also not advised for individuals who are actively contemplating
suicide or are suffering from a severe eating disorder or
mental/emotional disorder. If this describes you, please contact
your local crisis hotline
and/or seek treatment from a mental health
professional. Minors should consult with a legal guardian or other
adult when considering treatment and providers. Children under 13
years of age must have parental consent to use the resources on
this site. For more information go to Legal
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